The onset of a brand new year entices us to plot and plan and make New Year’s resolutions. We set our goals, map our paths, and plot the roads we want to take to accomplish our wants, wishes and requirements for 2018. Most of us have probably scheduled vacations, thought about how to celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, and other important dates. Many of us may have even made goals for work, exercise, diet, health, volunteering, reading, going to church, and so on.
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Perhaps you’ve even made a list. For some of us it is important to cross something off a list to feel like we’ve accomplished something. I’ve been known to put something that I’ve already done on a list just so I can check it off! We are a very goal-oriented, success-driven society, after all.
Sometimes I think we may get too caught up in getting where we want to go that we miss the adventure along the way. And we forget that there really isn’t a final destination. There is no place to ultimately say, “I have arrived!” Even once the magi found the baby Jesus, they had to continue on their journey home by another route, amassing more stories and having more experiences.
I wonder if we could let go a bit of being so goal-oriented or destination-oriented, could we then allow ourselves the experience of the journey itself?
Last summer I took a group to Pine Ridge Indian Reservation in South Dakota for a mission trip. I had the route, hotel, and timing pretty well planned to arrive at 2 p.m. on Saturday afternoon. Turns out we actually had a few extra hours to kill Saturday morning so we didn’t arrive too early. And, sure we could have slept in, but we were in Mitchell, South Dakota, the home of the Corn Palace! Certainly the youth who were with us needed to experience this wonder. So, we spent an amusing couple of hours exploring this phenomenon and allowing ourselves a spontaneous experience on the journey.
Life is the same way. We’re programmed to want to get from point A to point B as directly and quickly as possible. Then life happens. We have health issues, job loss, a baby, a divorce, a death, an opportunity, a move, a change in life goals. The path just isn’t straight, no matter how much we may want it to be. Working with the metaphor, there are mandatory rest stops, road construction and detours, flat tires and tourist attractions. Occasionally we get lost and lose our way. We like to convince ourselves that these things are all “bad.” But perhaps they just “are.” Perhaps they just are part of the journey; places we can find God in awe, in compassion, in hope, in others and in our own perseverance and resilience. Once we shift our mindset we can open ourselves to the Spirit who helps us to learn and grow through all these wonderful opportunities.
The path, the search, the journey is its own reward. If you want to plan and map and make lists, great. But do so a little more loosely. Build in some flexibility and spontaneity. Open to the winds of the Spirit, watch for potentials and opportunities and strive to always, whatever happens, engage the moment life has presented you with.
Many blessings on your adventures this coming year.
Love & Light!